There are plenty of emotions that can get in the way of us being the best version of ourselves. Feelings that prevent us from doing something we should do, or compel us to do things we should not do. These negative emotions can fuck up our thinking and make us come up with the most ridiculous stories in our mind to screw ourselves over.
Here’s a simple way to do deal with them.
Step 1: Identify the emotion you’re experiencing.
Step 2: If possible, remove yourself from the situation in a way that allows for some quiet time, for introspection, where there’s no pressure on you to interact with others.
Step 3: Feel where in your body the emotion is. Is it in your chest? In your stomach? In between your neck and your shoulders? Pay close attention to the physical sensation in your body, rather than getting lost in the thoughts in your mind.
Step 4: Breath into the feeling. Just be aware of it and breathe into it. By doing this, you’ll be much better equipped to deal with the feeling.
Here’s why this is an interesting approach:
Most people don’t do this. What they do is either suppress or express the feeling. They either pretend it’s not there, or they give it more power by acting it out. In both cases, you’re just giving this emotion more power over you, and it’ll come back again and again. Whereas you can resolve it by breathing into it, by being aware of it, you can really resolve that negative feeling and mit dir selbst im Reinen sein.